Catholic Engaged Encounter of Long Island

Frequently Asked Questions

Does the Engaged Encounter program fulfill the pre-cana requirement?

Yes

Does the Engaged Encounter program fulfill the FOCCUS requirement?

FOCCUS is not part of the Engaged Encounter program. The FOCCUS survey should be completed and the results thereof should be discussed with your priest / dioccesan representative before you attend the Engaged Encounter weekend.

Can my fiance / fiancee and I attend separate weekends?

No, the purpose of the Engaged Encounter weekend is to interact with and talk with your fiance or fiancee about issues you may not have already discussed. If your fiance or fiancee is not present, you will be unable to complete the program.

When should we register?

Registrations are done on a first-come, first-served basis. Space is limited. We suggest you book your weekend three months in advance. We also recommend that you attend a weekend 2-12 months before your wedding day.

What are the times of the weekend? Can I be late or arrive early?

You should arrive by 7:00 P.M. for checking and settling in. We will end on Sunday by 2:00 p.m. You are required to stay on site once you arrive. Our schedule does allow for some "down" time. There is a Sunday liturgy.

Some couples have asked us if they can come late or leave early due to travel plans or other conflicts. You must commit to the entire weekend. Because of this the Catholic church accepts our completion certificate as a component of marriage preparation. They have approved our outline and expect that the certificate was earned by full participation in every session.

Does the couple have to be Catholic?

Although the weekends are designed for couples planning to be married in the Catholic Church, they are open to couples from different faith backgrounds, based on the Catholic belief that marriage is between a man and a woman. Catholic Engaged Encounter has been found to be both beneficial and supportive to couples from different faiths.

What happens on the weekend?

A presenting team, usually two couples and a priest, leads the discussions through a series of carefully prepared talks. After each presentation, you will be given some questions to complete individually. This will be followed by having time to exchange your answers with your fiancé, read what the other has written, and share your thoughts and answers with one another.